Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
Whether you?re newly engaged or have been planning your wedding for quite some time, chances are you?re feeling a little overwhelmed by all the information, product choices, and decisions that go into planning such an important and memorable event. You?ve probably received advice from friends and family about things you must do, and have likely heard horror stories that make you cringe. While most people are just trying to help, there are always some people out there?maybe even a ?veteran? bride or two?who enjoy making you sweat. Chances are you?ve already done enough sweating for a personal marathon. Your wedding may feel like a never-ending race, but it?s not one worth running without a breather. So take a deep breath, relax, and don?t sweat the small stuff.
Every girl dreams of her wedding day, and every bride would be thrilled if it were perfect. The reality of the dream, however, is that things go wrong. Little problems and accidents will happen, and no amount of planning can save you from events outside of your control. Maybe your photographer will get stuck in traffic and show up late, maybe your best man will contract a nasty case of the stomach flu, or maybe a storm will blow away your food tent?any event planner can tell you that every successful activity is dependent on a certain amount of luck.
In the face of the potential for upset, it?s important to keep your perspective. If you let small problems build, they can turn into an overwhelming mountain of stress that will appear much bigger than it really is. By the same token, the storm that took away your tent can turn into a favorite family story you and your loved ones will be laughing over for years. The difference is attitude. If you let things roll off your back as much as you can, you can not only focus more clearly on the priorities that are truly important to you, but you?ll find you?re much happier in the process.
The first step is to allow yourself options. If you want a caketop that is ivory with navy blue flowers and rhinestones that includes a bride with red hair and a groom with blonde hair dressed in a black tux with tails.... well, that?s fine, but you?ll soon discover that you won?t have many pieces to choose from. Seeking out what you really want is important, and you deserve to have the wedding of your dreams?you just need to be prepared with alternatives if you cannot find it. The great thing about weddings is that, despite appearances, nothing is set in stone. You can afford to give yourself options?your wedding will be just as beautiful and your stress level will be much lower.
A second trick is to step away from the hubbub of planning and reevaluate your priorities. Of course you want everything to be as perfect as you can make it, but when you are having trouble making a decision try to ask yourself, ?Will my guests remember this a week or a month after the wedding?? If the answer is an overwhelming ?no?, then don?t sweat it! Your guests really won?t remember whether you had three or four roses in a vase, they?ll simply remember that you had beautiful roses on your reception tables. Remember: In all of human history there have been no recorded instances of a guest walking out in the middle of a wedding ceremony because the flowers weren't the exact shade of purple as the bridesmaids? dresses.
If your guests are truly that picky then your wedding plans are the least of your problems.
Third, once you start walking down that aisle it?s time to let go of all the details you?ve thought about continuously for the last six months. The real reason for all the running around and planning is waiting for you just a few feet away, and your beloved is marrying you, not the color scheme of your reception. Your wedding day is just that, a day that will come and go no matter how much work you put into it. The love your marriage represents is forever.
One last tip: Contrary to fairy tales and most Hollywood movies, the first year of marriage is typically not a world of bliss, love and happiness. Oh, there is bliss and there is happiness, but those first twelve months are also often the most difficult year of the entire marriage. Even if the two of you have lived together or have been engaged for a long time, there?s going to be some friction when you join two separate lives into one. People, after all, are imperfect?they have hobbies, bad habits, quirks you didn?t know about but despise?and they never fit together as snugly as pieces in a jigsaw puzzle. Don?t run yourself down emotionally before your journey as husband and wife even begins; be ready for the snags and look forward to the things that work. That is, after all, why you?re getting married.
Marriage takes work. Expect it ? but know that the bumpy road is normal. Handled with love and compassion, it is your honesty with each other even in difficult times that will draw you closer. So enjoy the good times, work through the bad times, and don?t sweat the small stuff.
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This article was submitted by Cathy Ward www.BridesVillage.com.